I dont understand my parents.?

its like they dont want me to be happy at all.

i am 14 years old and in 9 grade. i admit i changed A LOT over last summer. but it wasnt bad changes. for me it was good changes. i used to HATE myself. but now i actually love myself. even though i did dye my hair multiple times and changed my clothing style. they hate it. i used to be naturally blonde and wore all abercrombie because my parents made me. but now i have black hair and i wear clothes from hot topic. and they hate it. it seems like they hate me now because of it. becasue they talk to me less and less.

and i always get grounded for the stupidest things. i really dont understand. i do a lot around the house, get decent grades and i babysit.

they do not like my friends either. my "dad" kicked one of my friends out of our house because he didnt like the way he dressed. and i think that is over the top.

and it seems like my parents dont want to know the real "me" really. its pretty sad because my friends know more about

I dont understand my parents.?

From a parent's view:

I don't feel your parents hate you...they want the best for you. You've probably heard that many times but it's true. My daughter is 15 and she changed her looks similar to what you did. I don't hate her for it I know she's trying to find her individuality. We give a little and take a little...I let her wear her Hot Topic stuff but she respects me enough when I say "That's enough" or "that looks too weird". She has her look....with a few of my restrictions. The last thing I want is to push her away by being to overbearing. Talk to your parents and see if you can compromise. Best wishes.

I dont understand my parents.?

sit them down and tell them their really hurting your feelings and as parents need to provide and care and love for you no matter what

if they have any sense theyll knock it off

I dont understand my parents.?

parents freak out when their kids change and they don't understand why, that's all. it's normal. they still love you..but it sounds like they're having a hard time accepting how you dress now and whatnot. they'll get over it!

I dont understand my parents.?

sounds like you changed and changed fast..

your parents are just not ready for such a fast and crazy change..

just take it slow, day by day.. explain to them how your change makes you feel.. just respect them... even if you dont like what they do or say to or about you.. their your parents and you have to respect them

good luck

I dont understand my parents.?

Your parents will get over it. Just pretend they don't have a problem with the way you dress.

I dont understand my parents.?

Your parents probably are a bit freaked out by the changes you've made and aren't so sure how to handle it. Are you the oldest in the family? Stuff like that always happened to me because I was the first born, and so the first to do anything new, different, wierd, etc. I think as long as you are happy with who you are and continue to do well in school, help out around the house, etc., your parents will eventually come around and realize that just because you are growing up and becoming your own person doesn't mean anything bad. Outside appearances aren't what really matter anyway. GL!

I dont understand my parents.?

Yea, i have a friend who consider's himself to be 'emo', and his dad rejects him.

I think your parents are just scared.

Or see you as a "goth" becuase thats the only stereotype from thier past they can relate you with.

You could try going for more of a rocker style, or just mix and match your abercrombie with hot topic? or a differnt brand. h%26amp;m have some pretty mad rocker stuff.

or dye your hair chocolate brown thats always hot.

and be extra nice to them :)

I dont understand my parents.?

They might see that you're happier now, aren't sure why exactly but don't want anything to mess that up? I've seen 1st hand parents back away, afraid to meddle with what SEEMS to be working.

For a lot of parents, there is a lot of guesswork involved. Just as there's no roadmap for being 14, there's no map for parenting either.

They'll get it together sooner or later. Just keep doing what you're doing, it sounds like it's working for you.